I was just having a chat with a good friend of mine. As a guy it's weird to talk with your buds about love. You talk about sex and sports and things of that sort with your friends if your male. Rarely do you have a friend that you can talk about love with. He figured out something tonight that i've known for a while myself. He actually just lost somebody that he really liked. The kinda girl that made him feel good about himself but he knew there was something missing. In that loss though he gained what i believe to be a true knowledge of what love really is. He realized that he loved a girl he dated before. He thought he loved her when they were dating and he went through the motions of it but until now i don't think he really felt it till now. It impressed me a lot. It's something to reflect on. It makes me realize more how much I'm in love. I know it's not the most "manly" thing to talk about but I'd rather be happy and myself. I guess it's just something to think about.

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The First

My first post.

Why are we always obsessed with the "first". Your' first show, first date,first step, first words, ...etc. It seems like we make out our firsts to set the tone for the rest of our life. If a first date goes bad so does a relationship. If a first show goes bad you could lose your credibility right from the start. If your first steps and first words are early you're automatically smart, and if they're late you're dumb. I've heard people in their fortys talk about how they said "da da" before anyone else they've known. I think we're a little too obsessed with the first that we have a hard time with the next. The next is just as, if not more important than the first. You mess up on the "first" step you have a million more left to go. That next step is what defines character. The next step is the heart and soul. I'll leave you with a final quote that i feel exemplifies my tangent perfectly from the great Rough Rider, Teddy Roosevelt

"Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty... I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led diffcult lives and led them well."

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